What is True Love?

Dear Sappho,

What is true love? How do you know when you’ve found it? How would you define your true loves? How can you definitively know that your love is true when looking at it from the past, the future, on the side, or in the present? Is such a love destiny or chance? What type of love is truer than true love?

Lesbian Visibility Butch or Fem

Dear Sappho,

What’s the story on butch fem gender roles within lesbian relationships? Is it mandatory, is it discussed, chosen and is it normal? I don’t know if I’m butch or fem, I consider myself androgynous and to tell you the truth I am uncomfortable when I see extreme caricatures of either.